- Had my tank top ripped down by a stranger leaving visible scratch marks on my chest while he screamed “puerto rican day parade”
- Had a friend’s husband drunkenly stick his hand down the back of my pants under my underwear and almost inside me using the excuse that…
This post could also be called “I have shitty friends and use that as an excuse to make generalized statements about men.”
Because while I have had my fair share of creepy, shitty, and scary experiences with the dudelier half of this world, I do not for a second think most men are like this.
Assholes do shit like this and gender is irrelevent. Sexuality is irrelevent. Race is irrelevent. Assholes are assholes and will always be assholes and THEIR GENDER IS IRRELEVENT.
While I am aware that this will probably get me some sort of “You are supporting rape culture!” from some twat on this website, I am going to say it anyway: maybe you should STOP GOING TO BARS THAT PERPETUATE THIS SORT OF IDEA. Stop setting yourself up for asshole encounters by NOT GOING TO PLACES WHERE ASSHOLES CONGREGATE.
Jesus fucking Christ, Tumblr. I am so fucking tired of this bullshit.
So not only did you completely misunderstand the point of this post, you threw in some bonus victim blaming and used a gendered slur! Lovely.
Ok so one, not all the people who did these things to me were my friends
Two, no MEN do shit like this and it IS RELEVENT It is relevant that MEN do these things because it is MEN who whine when we are wary of their advances/attention due to the numerous encounters we have had with MEN who have not taken no for an answer or not been able to keep their hands to themselves.
Three Do you think this only happened in one bar? Like I just kept going to this one bar that happened to be full of MEN who liked to grope women? No Honey, here’s the thing. I am 36 years old, I have gone to bars, clubs, even restaurants, movie theaters and bowling allies. This sort of thing has happened to me at various different types of places and at every age since puberty AND TO EVERY SINGLE WOMAN I KNOW.
“STOP GOING TO BARS THAT PERPETUATE THIS SORT OF IDEA. Stop setting yourself up for asshole encounters by NOT GOING TO PLACES WHERE ASSHOLES CONGREGATE”
So instead of holding men accountable for their actions and accepting the fact that women are wary of men because of the things that have happened to us and other women, we should just not leave the house and put ourselves in that situation right? What you just said is the equivalent to telling a woman who was raped that she shouldn’t have worn a short skirt. Jesus use your fucking brain for once instead of blaming women FOR THE FUCKED UP ACTIONS OF MEN
LOOK! MORE PROOF THAT MEN ARE SHIT AND THAT THEY WILL NEVER TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR ALL OF THE VIOLENT, TOXIC THINGS THEY DO TO WOMEN!